Caregiving is a job where a few people can do well and it has a lot of shit to handle – the pun was not intended. Without caregivers, our lives with disabilities would not be the same. That means they are a really important part of our lives, and we don’t think about it sadly enough.
Good and Not so Good Aides
When we have some not so good ones, we want some other caregiver back because they were better. Although, we did not express our gratitude toward them when they were with us. It is our fault sometimes especially when we focus on the not so good ones. We have to remember to act the same way to all of our assistants because if we don’t have them, we would be in trouble and that won’t be good.
When I look back in my life, I saw when I was not kind or generous toward my aides. Yes, we are human beings who make mistakes, but we have to remember one thing and that is we are their employer. We all experience not so good bosses. When we had them, we wanted to quit. If we are the mean bosses, they might quit on us.
Showing You Are Thankful
So what can we do to show all of our caregivers that we are thankful to have them? One way is by saying thank you when they do something kind for us. It might be when they have done a good job or take another shift when another person needs off.
Another way that you could show appreciation to your aides is by letting them have a can of pop once in a while especially on a really hot day. It shows them that you care about them.
Sometimes a caregiver is extra special and you want to keep them around as long as you can. How do you do that? This is an excellent question and I think it is hard to answer because there are a lot of things to think about. If you say to give them more money, that is one way of doing it, but many people with disabilities don’t usually have extra money to give. The money usually is given by the state so the amount is determined by the state
Let’s just say that you are giving the pay yourself and you can give whatever you want. If you just increase the pay for the special aide, it might conflict with the other caregivers, and that is no good. What I do is give gifts for birthdays and Christmas. If other aides see the gift and ask you who is it for, just say for a friend. You are not lying because the person is your friend and that is how I see it.
I don’t think having a special personal care assistant is a bad thing at all – actually I think it is a good thing. It is allowing you to see what kind of caregiver is the best for you. If you say that it doesn’t matter, I beg the difference with you. When somebody helps me really well, I can see the difference – I eat a lot better with the person and I feel like I am better dressed. If I am dressed all messy and I go out, what would other people think of me? Most likely they might think that I am not well educated and don’t care about my image. Do you think that is me? I hope not.
Making the Difference
Caregivers do make a huge difference in your life and you want to keep the best aides in your life. If you are getting poor personal care assistants, your quality of life will decrease. I don’t want to hear that. If you are having a hard time finding good help, please contact me. I might have something that might help you.
Every person is different and like different types of caregivers so finding the right ones takes a lot of work. The more work that you do in finding the right help will reflect the quality of the help you will receive. If you have good luck in finding good caregivers, please tell us what you do because it might help another person in need of a good aide. Thank you!