Everybody has bad days and it just happens when you least expect it. It might be when you were in a hurry to get to work and you had an accident, which made you super late. You might have had a personal assistant who just quit on you when you didn’t expect it. I could go on and on with giving other examples. Sometimes we get ourselves in a rot when things don’t go well. Letting go the negativity is how we can restore our lives because we have to live positive and achieve what we want to accomplish in life.
Poor Me Role
If we have some negative things happen, again and again, we sometimes get down on ourselves and play the “poor me” role. I have to admit that I play this role and I hate it. You are saying why, Chris. It is not like I don’t want people to feel sorry for me rather I want to get over the negative and have the good things happen but I do not know how to accomplish it.
Letting Go The Negativity
A lot of people get to this state of life, but how do we move beyond this and get back to what we want to become? First of all, I don’t mean becoming a millionaire or a movie star, but rather becoming a person who is loved by God and wants to do well in the world. Trying to become a millionaire or a movie star is not wrong but it takes a lot of networking to achieve these things and you still don’t know if it will flourish ever. I think it gets back to what you love to do and find ways to build up the momentum to do it. For me, it is getting the word about this website and being able to write interesting blog posts.
I think that I have been listening to many experts, who are saying to do this and that so that people come and look around the site. It sounds nice and dandy, but at the end of the day, I have to be what God made me. If I cannot write a 1,750-word post ever, it is ok. If you are wondering where I got this number from, some people say that Google likes that length of posts with many pictures. Not listening to the experts is another way of letting go the negativity. You can argue that the experts might know what they are saying.
Giving Your All
When you give your all, it makes you be proud of yourself. I don’t mean that you have to do perfect work because nobody ever has done perfect work. Everybody has flaws and often feel that they could have done this or that, they would make it better. As a programmer, you design a program one way and while you are coding it, you think of a better design. Does this mean your current design is no good? Absolutely not, because designing is abstract – there are unlimited ways to design a program just like building a house. Some designs are better than others, but at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter if you deliver what the users want.
Believing in Yourself
Believing in yourself is all you need. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should others believe in you? It has to start with you. Let’s take an example. Your friend comes up to you and says that you should be a painter. You say well ok and you will try. After several tries, you can tell that you don’t have the act of painting.
Let’s change the example now. Let’s say that you want to be a writer and for a few months now, you have been doing a lot of short stories. You feel like your work has gotten a lot better so you feel like you should show a few friends. After showing them what you wrote, some might like your work and some might not like it. If you take their comments and apply what they told you in your next story, the next time you show your work, all of them might like it and might share it with others. Believing in yourself is one way of letting go the negativity inside you.
Beyond The Negativity
Sometimes you might receive mix reactions about your work for a while and you don’t know what to do. I know this feeling too well, but I have to do what I feel in my heart. It is hard to see the fruit of something if you are looking in the wrong direction. I have an awesome example of this – a few weeks ago, I was talking to a guy who does SEO work for a while and he tested this site. At the end of the conversation, he basically said I was stupid in trying to improve the site.
Fast forward to this week. I saw a comment from a visitor, and I thought oh no another person who wants me to put their product on this website. I started to read the comment and to my amazing dream, it was from a woman who has a disability and she loves this site a lot. This validates that what I am doing here is really helping people in so many ways that I cannot imagine. Going back to the short stories example, if there is just one person who has been touched by a story, you did your job. Staying positive is another way of letting go the negativity.
Trusting in God
I know it is hard to see other people accomplishing a lot but you aren’t. All I can say is to trust in God and knowing that he is guiding you on the right path. If you do that, you will succeed. The end goal is to get to heaven and not a book deal. I know that a book deal might be sweet. But at the same time, it might not lead you to heaven. For information on how to win the lotto check out Sportwetten Lizenz Vergabe 2014